But here’s a deeper question.

Can a culture burn out?

And if the answer is yes, any chance that’s happening to America in this moment?

An accurate diagnosis might be helpful right now because, if you’re like me, as you read the news and scroll through your feed it’s hard not to feel despair.

I was speaking to a group of next generation church leaders recently, most in their twenties or early thirties, and as I thought about their future, I was reminded of how pessimistic so many of the outlooks on the future are right now.

That’s when it hit me: it is possible for an entire culture to experience burn out, and is that in fact happening? 

Between a pandemic, a fragile economy, racial injustice, climate instability, and very stressful election and political tone, it’s a very difficult moment.

Then the even bigger question:  in light of all this, how do you minister to an exhausted, cynical culture?

If in fact, a country is showing signs of burnout, that does three things.

First, it provides an accurate diagnosis, which has value in itself. Not knowing what’s wrong makes it very difficult to make things right.

Second, a diagnosis points the way to treatment. And third, it ultimately offers hope of recovery.

Which is my motivation in writing this post. Although I’m a Canadian, I’ve always had a deep affection for America and (until the pandemic impacted travel) spent a great deal of time there.

Many of my deep friendships and partnerships are with Americans, so the connections mean a lot to me. Add to that the fact that America is still such a global influencer, and we realize we all get better when America gets better. And we all suffer when America suffers.

So what’s going on, and what can we do about it?

How do you minister to an exhausted, burned out culture?

We all get better when America gets better. And we all suffer when America suffers. So the question becomes, how do you minister to a burned out culture?

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Some Signs It May Be Burnout

I’m personally familiar with the challenge of burnout. Having burned out personally around the age of 40, I’m all too familiar with the symptoms and challenges associated with it.

I’ve outlined the symptoms to look for here, but let me give you a partial, short list of what people go through when they experience burn out.

Given that a nation is the sum of its people, it’s good to look within to yourself and around to others. And when certain behaviours and characteristics are widespread enough to characterize a people, you could argue the culture is burning out.

So what do you look for? While this is not a medical diagnosis, see if any of this sounds familiar.

Cynicism, a loss of passion, and a pervasive numbness often signify burnout. To say we’ve grown cynical and grown numb as a culture is a bit of an understatement right now. And cynicism never finds a home in a healthy heart.

In addition to numbness, though, burnout can bring out disproportionate emotional responses like anger over things that shouldn’t normally make you angry. The weird combination of numbness to many things and a livid anger about other things is a classic sign of burnout. On that note, that’s exactly what your social media feed is right now—a strange combination of indifference and fury.

The weird combination of numbness and a livid anger about other things is a classic sign of burnout. On that note, that’s exactly what your social media feed is right now—a strange combination of indifference and fury.

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Other symptoms include loss of motivation (this will never get better, so what’s the point?) and the inability to think straight. When I burned out it was as though my mind stopped working…I just couldn’t form many logical thoughts. Taking a look at our culture right now, and it’s easy to see we’re not making great decisions, and the decisions we are making are often fuelled by impulse, emotion and anger (see above).

A final sign worth noting is that people who are burning out often self-medicate. That usually takes the form of addiction.

The addiction can be something as ‘virtuous’ as work or food.  For me, it was both of those things. I worked far too many hours and ate some of my feelings (which of course, just makes you feel worse).  Other times you can get addicted to spending, gaming, binge watching, exercise, or anything else that helps you numb out or escape.

And, of course, people also self-medicate through the use of alcohol, drugs, sex and gambling.

The fact that we’re a deeply addicted culture points to an inability to cope with the current reality. Which opens the door wide for healing and ministry.

So what can you do to point toward a solution, rather than be part of the problem?

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1. Drink from a deeper well

It’s not your imagination, your social media feed and news feed are hard to take right now.

While it’s important to stay connected and in touch as a leader, the main thing your social media and news feed do these days is feed your anxiety. What’s used to feed your mind and heart now just feeds your despair.

The main thing your social media and news feed do these days is feed your anxiety. What’s used to feed your mind and heart now just feeds your despair.

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Which is why you need to drink from a deeper well.

Obviously, for Christians, that starts with scripture.

But in a fractious time, even reading the Bible can be one more way to find ammunition to attack the other side or prove your point. That’s just a bad use of the bible.

Don’t let your news feed filter your reading of scripture. Let your reading of scripture filter your news feed. The former fuels anxiety. The latter diffuses it.

Another great practice right now is to anchor yourself in timeless truth. Go back to a favourite devotional book, spiritual classic or something that wasn’t written in the last 20 years.

Sages have made it through crises in the past. If you keep yourself anchored, so will you.

Don’t let your news feed filter your reading of scripture. Let your reading of scripture filter your news feed. The former fuels anxiety. The latter diffuses it.

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2. Bind wounds, don’t aggravate them

When a culture is wounded, ask yourself whether your chief goal is to bind the wound or aggravate it. Right now, it feels like many have gone beyond poking and into aggravation.

What if you just decided that your approach in life and online was going to be to bind wounds, not aggravate them?

To try to heal your enemies rather than harm them?

A simple way to begin is to ask this question: how can I help?

If what you’re about to say or do doesn’t help your neighbour, don’t say it and don’t do it.

If what you’re about to say or do doesn’t help your neighbour, don’t say it and don’t do it.

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3. Offer a real alternative to hype and hate

Our world is looking for an alternative right now.

Deciding what you want to be known for is the first step in the right direction.

As my friend Jeff Henderson points out, most churches (and many church leaders) have been known for what they’re against. It’s much better to be known what you’re for.

Being against something take almost no work. I personally find it easy to come up with almost instant criticism of almost anything.

So many people eating Doritos who have never once stepped foot on a field know how to manage an NFL team better than a head coach. Criticism is easy and often inaccurate.

It’s much harder to decide what you’re for. But that’s where all the value is.

Being for something will actually require something of you. Some effort, some principles, some sacrifice and perhaps some misunderstanding.

Church leaders make a mistake when they imagine that the scripture is mostly about things we’re against. It’s not.

It’s about things we’re for. The alternative community that emerged in the first century that was characterized by love, equality, generosity, sacrifice, caring for the marginalized and least important and the outward thrust of the Gospel reshaped the world and reshaped history.

The next generation today is looking for an alternative to hype and hate. They’re looking for hope.

The church is their best hope for finding that. If we focus on the things the early church focused on, they will.

The next generation today is looking for an alternative to hype and hate. They’re looking for hope.

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4. Take care of yourself

This is a long, tiring journey we’re on.

The crisis everyone thought would last for a few months is dragging on with no end in sight. Which chronic instability on the indefinite horizon, healthy leaders are the only leaders who are going to make it long term.

So take care of yourself.

For years I ran on no reserves. You just can’t do that.  And your vacation won’t save you.

Here’s why: time off won’t heal you when the problem is how you spend time on. Most of us run at unsustainable pace, limping into our weekends and vacation hoping they’ll restore us. They won’t. A vacation can’t solve an unattainable pace. A sustainable pace can solve an unattainable pace.

Time off won’t heal you when the problem is how you spend your time on.

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The mantra I’ve lived by for the almost 15 years since my burnout is live in a way today that will help you thrive tomorrow. I’ve adjusted everything in my life to try to make sure that happens: my sleep, diet, exercise, time off, the kind of work I do and so much more.

So think about that: what do you need to do today so you can thrive tomorrow?

Cancel some meetings? Delegate a little more? Say no to some new opportunities? Go for a run? Get to bed early tonight? Stop drinking every night to relieve the stress? Take a nap? Get that workout in?

It’s probably a combination of all of that (and more).

If you don’t put some margin in your life today, you won’t have much of a tomorrow.

If you don’t put some margin in your life today, you won’t have much of a tomorrow.

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5. Unfollow 

One of my personal values is ‘err on the side of generosity’. I like being generous, not just financially, but in spirit, trying to give people the benefit of the doubt and including rather than excluding.

I’m also deeply concerned about confirmation bias and the echo chamber than social media algorithms create (I wrote about that here).

That said, I’ve unfollowed more people in the last year than in the last five years combined largely because they are fuelling the anger rather than diffusing it. And no, I’m not talking about the racial justice discussion (I’ve actually followed that conversation more closely).

But the kind of people who are always stirring up controversy, magnifying division and taking entrenched partisan (rather than principled) stands became such a distraction and agitation for me that unfollowing or muting seems to be the best option.

It’s difficult to think (and pray) deeply when you have people constantly yelling in your ear about their take on every issue whether it matters or not.

So, you may want to consider unfollowing or muting a few people. It’s hard to bring something positive if you constantly fill your mind with negatives.

It’s hard to bring peace if you only fill your mind with division.

It’s hard to bring peace if you only fill your mind with division.

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What Do You See?

I really think this is a great opportunity for us, as leaders, to speak into the culture in fresh ways. But to do that, we have to be healthy.

What are you seeing? Do you think people (and perhaps our culture) are burning out?

What do you need to do to be part of the solution rather than part of the problem?

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by Carey Nieuwhof: Ever feel a little insecure as a leader?

You’re not alone.

Insecurity is something I’ve battled, and I can think of almost no-one in leadership who hasn’t struggled with it at some point, including most very successful leaders.

Insecurity is that awkward lack of confidence that makes you too aggressive in some settings, and too passive and resigned in others. It makes you hide from who you really are from others, and honestly, it makes you hide from yourself.

Finally, insecurity drains the life out of your leadership and ultimately out of you.

Insecure leaders have a hard time identifying the fact that they’re insecure, because, well, insecurity feels normal to them.

The challenge is as an insecure person, your behaviour will make perfect sense to you but not to anyone else.

So rather than having that happen, why not look for the signs insecurity is impacting your life and leadership now?

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by Carey Nieuwhof: You didn’t start out in leadership to give up early or never realize your potential, but admit it: you’ve seen it happen to leaders around you all the time.

The question is: is it happening to you?

It’s a great question to ask…and not enough leaders ask it.

There are challenges that almost everyone experiences but no one expects in life and leadership. And they’re the most deadly.

At age 18, no one says “I hope by the time I’m 35, I’m cynical, jaded and burned out,” but it happens all the time.

The questions is why.

Surprisingly, it’s rarely issues of skill, talent or ability that take down leaders and entrepreneurs or cap their growth. Often, it’s the soft issues that can sideline even the best leaders: things like cynicism, disconnectedness or even pride that just turn you into someone you never wanted to be.

And those are the issues almost no one ever sees coming. When you understand how they start…you can spot them before they take you out.

Here are 7 issues almost everyone experiences and none of us expect:

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1. Cynicism

You probably didn’t start out in life and leadership as a cynic. But if you’re like most people, you find yourself growing a little more cynical with every passing year.

Cynicism begins not because you don’t care but because you do care. It starts because you poured your heart into something and got little in return.

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Or maybe you got something in return, but it was the opposite of what you desired. You fell in love, only to have that relationship dissolve. You threw your heart into your job, only to be told you were being let go. Or you were completely there for your mom, only to have her tell you you’re such a disappointment.

And you can’t help but think to yourself, What gives?

Most cynics are former optimists. You’d never know it now, but there was a time when they were hopeful, enthusiastic, and even cheerful. There’s something inside the human spirit that wants to hope, wants to think things will get better. Nearly everyone starts life with a positive outlook.

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As much as you may not want to admit it, cynicism is a choice. Life doesn’t make you cynical. You make you cynical.

Once-a-cynic doesn’t mean always-a-cynic. Not if you get Jesus involved.

Curious as to how cynical you’ve grown? Take this short quiz and find out.

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2. Compromise

Most of us know people who have sold out, who’ve given in to the dark forces of greed, self-absorption, blind ambition, moral trade-offs, or ruthlessness. In the process, they threw integrity out the window.

And even if you don’t personally know someone who’s done this, a quick scan of the headlines on any given day will usually yield an athlete, a politician, or a business leader who has.

So how does a person get there?  Even if your family hasn’t forsaken you and it hasn’t cost you your job, you may sometimes look in the mirror with the sinking feeling that you didn’t do what you should have done and you’re not who you thought you’d be.

You know how compromise starts? Subtly.

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There was that time when you weren’t 100 percent honest with a client, or maybe many clients. You could have kept the promise, but you didn’t. You haven’t told your wife about your porn problem, but you tell yourself it’s no big deal when you know deep down it’s ruining your intimacy with her.

Maybe you know you should be more present for your kids, but you hide behind your laptop because you just can’t handle the chaos of bedtime and don’t want yet another fight with your wife. Work is just easier. At least people respect you there.

The subtle compromises we make day after day—the half truths, the rationalizations, the excuses—create a gap between who we are and who we want to be. You’re not a terrible person, but you’re certainly not at your best either.

And if you got dead honest with yourself, you’d say that although you haven’t sold your soul to the devil, you’ve rented it.

A thousand little compromises leave you . . . compromised.

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3. Disconnection

In the end, life and leadership is relational. It’s about your relationship with God and your relationship with people.

And since leadership is influence, it really depends on your ability to motivate people to a calling and cause beyond themselves, which again, depends on connection and relationship.

But something weird is happening in our culture. Technology is changing rapidly, and it seems to be changing us rapidly.

We live in a world where you can have five hundred friends and still feel isolated and abandoned. As a culture, the more connected we’ve become, the more isolated we’ve grown. This is our strange twenty-first-century paradox: we’re connected to more people than ever before and we’ve never felt more alone.

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What it means for most of us is that a devious disconnect is underway. You and I are connecting with people, just not the people who are in the room with us. We’re having conversations, just not with the people we need to most. As a result, we’re sacrificing prime time to people we can’t hug or touch or see face to face. We might find ourselves paying more attention to someone we knew in college than the people closest to us right now.

And it’s making us feel very isolated. Nothing good happens in isolation. Solitude is a gift from God, but isolation is not—isolation is a tool of the Enemy.

If you wonder what can cap your leadership or take you out—being disconnected from the people you need to be connected to is a subtle but very real contender.

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4. Irrelevance

Irrelevance has a sting to it that catches many people off guard. The once-sharp leader is out of work at fifty and almost unemployable.

The preacher everybody listened to a decade ago speaks to a congregation that grows smaller and older with every passing year.

The entrepreneur who had several thriving businesses in his thirties now peddles ideas that just get blank stares—or, worse, looks of pity. The dad who coached Little League and whom kids adored now just sits at home anesthetized by the TV.

Irrelevance can be cruel as it silently squanders your influence. Most of us spend considerable energy and effort in our younger years trying to influence the people we care about and advance the causes that matter to us.

Irrelevance sabotages that influence. Without ever telling you why, people quietly dismiss you as someone who doesn’t quite get it. They write you off as quaint, outdated, and even insignificant.

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Why is irrelevance a natural drift in almost all our lives? Here’s the problem: Culture never asks permission to change. It just changes.

And your ability to understand current culture so critical?

Simple. Relevance gains you permission to speak into the current culture.

People who don’t understand today’s culture will never be able to speak into it. Whether you agree with the culture or not, understanding it is a prerequisite to being able to influence it.

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5. Pride

It’s so easy to spot pride. Okay, let me try that again. It’s so easy to spot pride in other people. There, that’s far more accurate.

You’re probably not a raging egomaniac or a diagnosed narcissist, but does that mean pride hasn’t snagged you?

Strangely, most of us don’t see ourselves as proud, yet many of us are. It should be no surprise that pride runs deep, because pride is, in many ways, the master sin. It’s the root of our rebellion against God, against others, and even against what’s best for us.

Here’s why pride is so universal: pride at its heart is an obsession with self.

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It generates the desire you feel to protect, project, manipulate, jockey, advance, pretend, inflate, and brag.

It’s so pervasive that, as Benjamin Franklin observed, if you ever reached the point of becoming humble, you might find yourself wanting to boast about how meek you are.

What’s so surprising is that pride most often shows up in the form of insecurity.

Insecurity makes people just as obsessed with themselves as narcissism does. All you can think about is you.

Insecure people are afraid to have smarter people in the room. They want to hog the spotlight because they’re afraid other people might be better than them. The insecure constantly compare themselves to other.

Why does it stunt your leadership? Because you’re so pre-occupied with yourself that you’ll never truly be able to advance others or even the mission. If you’re insecure, it’s all about you.

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6. Burnout

Burnout is almost an epidemic among church leaders today, and it’s increasingly common among business leaders as well.

Even young leaders are burning out. No longer is burnout an “I’ve been at this too long” kind of phenomenon.

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The more people I meet and the more I look around our culture, the more I think there may be many people suffering from burnout or what I might call “low-grade burn- out.”

By that I mean the joy of life is gone, but the functions of life continue. You’re not dead, but you’re certainly not feeling fully alive.

The symptoms are not enough to stop people in their tracks, but they’re present enough to sap the meaning and wonder out of everyday life.

If you think you’re immune from burnout (I did…until I burned out), just remember that denial is an accelerator. Maybe you’re thinking you’re stronger than burnout. Chances are you’re not. Remember, you’ve got control until you fall off the cliff. Then all control is gone.

Or maybe you think you’re just tired or that the rules don’t apply to you. Well, good luck with that. Every day you remain in denial, you make burnout more likely, not less likely. Rather than care for yourself and deal with your issues, you push on, closer to the edge than ever.

Burnout isn’t inevitable, and it’s not final.

You don’t need to live this way, but too many leaders do.

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7. Emptiness

Of all the challenges that take out leaders and stunt their potential, emptiness seems like a weird one.

After all, the other 6 obviously impact your ability to live and lead well.

But what’s the deal with emptiness?

Empty is a feeling I’ve had more than once in my life, most particularly after a peak. It happened after I graduated from law school, after our church became one of the largest in our denomination, and after we finished a few multimillion-dollar building projects.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m grateful. Very grateful. But feeling grateful doesn’t leave you feel full.

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Feeling empty is something I’ve seen afflict a surprising number of successful people. It’s what causes lawyers making mountains of money to buy a lottery ticket and shout to their staff, “If I win this thing, you’ll never see my face again.”

In fact, the emptiness so many people experience in life is more intense in success than it is in failure. When you fail, you have nowhere to go but up. But when you’re up, when you’ve done what others have only dreamed of doing and you still don’t feel great . . . well, then what?

Most of us have this notion that Once I get to a certain place or achieve a certain thing, life will truly start in full, and I’ll finally be happy and whole. It just doesn’t work out that way. You graduate, but you find there’s still something inside you that says there has to be more.

You find the one, get married, and have kids. And it’s great, but still, what’s that thing inside that says there must be more? You land a job and then a career job and then your dream position, but still, there’s a quiet-but-real gnawing inside that says it’s not all you imagined it would be. You pick different markers—time off, vacations, and savings goals—but still the high continues to be short lived. Keep going, and before you know it, you’ve convinced yourself retirement will fill the hole nothing else has been able to fill.

It’s quite the game.

It’s also a game you lose.

You’ve done everything you know to do, everything that was supposed to bring you satisfaction, and you still can’t help but feel a bit empty. What gives?

Well, for starters, you need a mission that’s far bigger than you.

You aren’t the mission. Your job is to point people to the mission—a mission worth spending a major chunk of their lives working toward.

Give people a cause, a mission to make a difference in the world, a way to help others, and they will rally. Let them know their efforts have made a difference in someone else’s life, and they’ll look forward to getting themselves out of bed.

There is no end to the sad discontent of making you the mission of your life.

Every time you make you the mission of your life, you feel empty.

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Recognize Any Of These 7?

If you recognize yourself in this post, just know there’s help and there’s hope.

I tackle all seven issues in depth in my book, Didn’t See It Coming: Overcoming the 7 Greatest Challenges That No One Expects and Everyone Experiences. 

I’ve navigated all seven challenges in varying degrees, and in Didn’t See It Coming, I not only outline how each of these seven challenges show up in your life, I show you how to combat them and beat them.

There’s an antidote to each of the seven and some very practical steps you can take so issues like cynicism, pride, irrelevance and emptiness no longer define your present or your future.  And once you’ve burned out, you don’t need to stay burned out. You can thrive again, and I show you how.

You can pick up your copy of Didn’t See It Coming here (hardcover, AudioBook or Kindle) and once again (or for the first time) discover how to thrive in life leadership.

What’s Your Experience?

What’s been your experience with these 7 issues?

Comment below and let us know what’s helped you through them.

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by Carey Nieuwhof: Leadership takes courage, and my guess is that some days it feels the cynics and pessimists have sucked almost all the courage and hope out of you.

I get that. We’ve all had our share of cynics and pessimists try to dissuade us from action.

We live in an age in which there is no shortage of opinion. The challenge these days in leadership (and in life) is that a lot of those opinions are not particularly helpful.

On most teams, boards and in most organizations and churches you’ll find cynics and pessimists who are constantly offering opinions on what you should do, or more frequently, not do.

The question you have is this: how do you handle the cynics and pessimists, whose usual response to your new idea is to explain to you why it won’t work, why it’s doomed to fail or why it’s simply not worth pursuing?

Of course, cynics and pessmists rarely own up to being who they are. Instead, they tell you they’re realists.

Realism is often just a thin disguise for the much deeper problems of cynicism and pessimism.

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The worst thing about the constant barrage of negative voices is that they snuff out hope. And you never get to a better future without hope.

So how should you respond? How do you keep hope alive when the cynics and pessimists keep telling you it can’t happen and it won’t happen?

Here are five ways to handle the negative voices that come your way…

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