Growing in Emotional Intelligence
By New Churches Team
Resources That Work
When it comes to emotional intelligence or personality tests, these assessments are only good if they are useful. If you can’t apply or implement what you’ve learned to move your team forward, it’s not any good. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves is an approachable, short, and easy-to-apply resource.
Emotional Intelligence 2.0 gives you a step-by step program in understanding emotional intelligence. Bradberry and Greaves explain the four leadership competencies in emotional intelligence:
- Self-awareness – Leaders need to be attuned to their inner signals, recognizing how their feelings affect what they do. They need to have an accurate self-assessment and a self-awareness of their limitations and strengths. They should have a sense of humor about themselves and have self-confidence.
- Self-management – Leaders should develop self control, be transparent, and be adaptable. They should also have a sense of achievement, initiative, and optimism.
- Social awareness – Leaders should show empathy and be able to detect networks and who has the power in particular settings. They should be aware of the informal, unseen leadership structure.
- Relationship management – Leaders should be able to inspire and influence. They should also be change catalysts. Especially in the church, being a change catalyst is something you are constantly doing. If you aren’t changing, then you aren’t growing. Leaders should also be strong in conflict management, teamwork, and collaboration.
Knowing Leads to Growth
A lot of people don’t understand they have a big gap somewhere. In one of those four areas, you are weaker than in the others. Knowing that makes a difference. People are often blind to their weaknesses, but by being aware of them you can then adjust yourself and your actions. By knowing where you struggle, you can build in frameworks to help you be more aware of those moments.
Adapted from the New Churches Q&A Podcast Episode 460: Emotional Intelligence Resources. Click here to listen to more to church planting, multisite, and multiplication tips.