By: Carey Nieuwhof
NYT bestselling author and recovering lawyer, Bob Goff, talks about rebuilding when your life breaks down, how to dream bigger than you ever have, and what never losing a case at law taught him about life.
This wide-ranging interview is a tour de force of what’s possible when you realize you can dream.
Welcome to Episode 349 of the podcast. Listen and access the show notes below or search for the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts and listen for free.
Plus, in this episode’s What I’m Thinking About segment, Carey talks about 5 characteristics of great leaders.
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3 INSIGHTS FROM BOB
1. Choose your battles
In 25 years of law, Bob never lost a case. That’s crazy good. You would think that means he is a really great lawyer (which he is), but Bob gives more credit to his ability as a picker rather than his ability as a lawyer. He won’t take cases he doesn’t think he can win. He applies this principle to the rest of his life, as well.
Bob has noticed that most people are quick to engage in arguments that they probably won’t win. You probably do as well. Those arguments just aren’t worth your time. Wouldn’t it be so much better if you focused on the conversations and efforts in your life that will actually go somewhere? If you want to win, choose your arguments.
2. Minor setbacks can be a sign of deeper issues
While at his cabin, Bob does this thing called “water logging” where he looks out over the water for a valuable log that has been left by a tug-boat, sitting vertically in the water. Usually only a few inches of the log is above the water, so Bob finds these massive logs by looking first for the seagulls that perch on them.
He points out that many major issues and opportunities for growth in our lives are like those logs. They go deep into our subconscious but are barely visible from the surface. Maybe you have a bit of frustration or anxiety that bubbles up, but there might be a deep wound causing it. If you want to get better, you need to unearth those problems.
3. Dreams come in all sizes, so dream big
If you want to chase your dreams, you need to look deeper than just asking, “What do I want?” Ask yourself, “Why do I want it?” And, if the reason you want something is healthy, go after it! Bob recommends that you take action on your courageous dreams now. Write the letter, make the ask, do what you can today to start it.
Your dream won’t always be a career dream. Sometimes a dream is a meeting, an event, or a relationship in your life. One of Bob’s dreams is to be an amazing grandpa, and he will be chasing that dream forever. Another of his dreams was tea with the Queen of England, so he sent her a letter! Your ambitions come in small, medium, and large sizes. Bob would love for you to pursue all of them.
Quotes from Episode 349
God isn’t dazzled when you go across the ocean, he’s wowed when you go across the street. @bobgoffClick To Tweet
God never compares what he creates. @bobgoffClick To Tweet
Instead of giving the world more information, I want to give the world more examples. @bobgoffClick To Tweet
Know what you want, why you want it, and then importantly, decide what you’re going to do about it. @bobgoffClick To Tweet
You want to do awesome advocacy, take a genuine interest in your neighbor across the street. @bobgoffClick To Tweet
Not every argument is one that you need to win. @bobgoffClick To Tweet
You get so much further with kindness and respect. @bobgoffClick To Tweet
If you want to become a great leader, talk less, listen more. @cnieuwhofClick To Tweet
When you listen longer than most people listen, you hear things most people never hear. @cnieuwhofClick To Tweet
Great leaders rush to a question far more often than they rush to an answer. @cnieuwhofClick To Tweet
Great leaders often stay quiet about themselves. @cnieuwhofClick To Tweet
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