by Carey Nieuwhof:
“You have one body, and your leadership lives in it.” Jo Saxton had a lot to overcome from her childhood, and it caused her to become a driven leader in her thirties. Eventually, her drivenness led her into a burnout so deep she ended up in the hospital.
Jo not only recovered but figured out how to accomplish more by doing less. She explains how that happened and how to reduce the level of fear and anxiety your team experiences.
Welcome to Episode 354 of the podcast. Listen and access the show notes below or search for the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts and listen for free.
Plus, in this episode’s What I’m Thinking About segment, Carey talks about the importance of sleep, why he prioritizes it, and offers some hacks on how to sleep better.
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3 INSIGHTS FROM JO
1. Who were you before anyone told you who you were supposed to be
When Jo was growing up, she was told that since she was a Nigerian girl in 1970’s London, she would have to work twice as hard as everyone else just to be equal. She had been dehumanized by society away from her potential. This didn’t go away as she got older.
People told her that she “should” be quieter, or that she “should” go find a good man and do ministry that way, or that she “should” just let other people handle certain areas of ministry. Jo has learned that you can’t let what other people think you “should” be determine who you become. Stay true to how God has gifted you, no matter what other people think.
2. You have one body, and your leadership lives in it
Your body doesn’t lie. Jo and Carey have both learned this the hard way as they each went through their own seasons of burnout. When Jo was burning out, she saw how badly the people in her church needed her, so she kept working more hours. Eventually through insomnia and anxiety attacks, her body began telling her to stop, and eventually, it forced her to stop by putting her in urgent care.
Carey has a similar story with burnout when he didn’t listen to his body’s warnings. Have you? As a leader, the demand on your time and energy is immense. Add on being a great parent and spouse, friend or sibling, and it would be easy to sacrifice sleep, eating healthy, or exercise for the sake of work. Don’t. If you don’t put serious effort into taking care of your body, it will quit taking care of you.
3. It takes a village to make a leader
When you look deep into the stories of the greatest leaders in history, whether it’s Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, or other highly-influential leaders, you see that there was a movement of people surrounding them, making them who they were. Jo has also seen this in her own life.
Jo comes from a very communal culture that is different from the modern West. This communal mindset has taught her that not only does it take a village to raise a child, but it takes a village to raise a leader. You have probably seen this in your own life and leadership. So today, find a leader whose corner you can step into, and do it.
Quotes from Episode 354
You have one body, and your leadership lives in it. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
Who were you before anyone told you who you were supposed to be? @josaxtonClick To Tweet
There is a healing even in leading in the way you’re wired. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
I had built my entire life on being twice as good to be equal. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
I was fighting to be equal. Now I know I’m equal, and I don’t have to. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
When you’re dehumanized, you get detached from your potential. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
Leaders, it’s time to know you’re enough. You’re already good enough. And if you know that knowing that truth would change you in some way, then it’s time to let it change you. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
We don’t burn out because we want to. We burn out because of the other things that are driving us. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
You may have great ideas and be a wonderful businessman or a woman, a wonderful innovator, a great creative, but if your body’s out, you’re out. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
I decided where my intensity would go, and rather than my intensity going into endless activity, it would go towards my well-being. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
One of the big challenges in times when everything’s shaken is, ‘What in our expectations can stay the same and what has to change?’ @josaxtonClick To Tweet
A leader without cultural competency is a leader with an interesting deadline. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
It’s just really vital that as leaders, we are culturally cognizant, because not everybody experiences the world in the same way that we do. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
We need people who help us get roots and people who give us wings. @josaxtonClick To Tweet
I would ask every leader to consider, ‘Who’s your village?’ @josaxtonClick To Tweet
The better you sleep, the higher your productivity. @cnieuwhofClick To Tweet
A rested you is a better, kinder and more productive you. @cnieuwhofClick To Tweet
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