by Carey Nieuwhof: Ian Morgan Cron interviews Carey for this episode of his top rated Typology podcast, but in the middle of the interview, Carey turned the tables got Ian to apply his Enneagram insights to Carey’s latest book, Didn’t See It Coming. What results is Ian doing a fascinating analysis on which Enneagram types might be more prone to cynicism, burnout, pride, moral compromise and more.
Welcome to Episode 278 of the podcast. Listen and access the show notes below or search for the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts and listen for free.
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Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport
3 Insights from Ian
1. One of the greatest predictors of success is emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence and self-awareness are a must-have skill for any leader to have significant long-term success. One of the greatest strengths of the Enneagram for leaders is that it helps you become more self-aware about your internal motives and weaknesses.
In Carey’s book, Didn’t See It Coming, Carey outlines 7 major challenges that no leader expects, but every leader experiences. The Enneagram can help you determine which of those major challenges are more likely to impact your life, and what the different warning signs and causes could be. It also gives you insight into what you are like when your personality is on autopilot, and you don’t necessarily see your failures coming. If you know your weaknesses, you can see your obstacles coming before it’s too late.
2. Knowing your Enneagram can help you avoid moral compromise
Moral compromise can come at any of us. We all feel the pull to give up our integrity and character for something. Our Enneagram type can help us determine what that “something” is. Moral compromise is not just the big headline affairs that ruin people’s careers. It is more often a slow process where you daily give up a little bit of yourself.
For example, 3’s are tempted to give into moral compromise so that they can put up a better public facade. 3’s live for putting up the best image of themselves possible at any cost. Often, they will be tempted to cut corners to become that person people are impressed with. When they begin to cut corners in their life, they begin to compromise in places that they should not be compromising. 3’s can easily compartmentalize their public lives and their private lives as 2 separate things. When they do this, they have a perfect public persona and cut a lot of corners in their personal lives.
3. Smartphones are building a generation of anxious people
Technology has done a fantastic job of connecting the world together in a way that has never been seen before in history. For the first time ever, if there is a major tragedy in London, students and teachers in the US and China are learning about it at the same time. There is a lot of good that has come out of this change, but it’s not all positive.
For the first time in history, the UK has hired on a “Minister Of Loneliness.” People are reporting symptoms of loneliness and anxiety at record rates, and it is directly related to the exposure we have with technology. The generations that are being hit by this the most are the Gen Z and Millennial generations. The earlier they were exposed to smartphones, the higher levels of loneliness and anxiety were reported.
Quotes from Episode 278
You have no business leading others if you don’t know how to lead yourself first. @ianmorgancronClick To Tweet
It’s always the emotionally intelligent leaders that seem to do the best. @cnieuwhofClick To Tweet
The more I respect and understand my limits, the more I’m actually capable of. @cnieuwhofClick To Tweet
I think we have way more information than God ever created us to deal with. @cnieuwhofClick To Tweet
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If you want practical help overcoming some of the biggest challenges leaders face, my new book Didn’t See It Coming: Overcoming the 7 Greatest Challenges That Nobody Expects and Everyone Experiences tackles the seven core issues that take people out: cynicism, compromise, disconnectedness, irrelevance, pride, burnout, and the emptiness of success and provides strategies on how to combat each.
I wrote the book because no 18 year old sets out to be cynical, jaded and disconnected by age 35. Yet it happens all the time.
The good news is, it doesn’t have to be that way.
Here’s what top leaders are saying about Didn’t See It Coming:
“Seriously, this may be the most important book you read this year.” Jud Wilhite, Lead Pastor, Central Church
“Powerful, personal, and highly readable. ”Brian Houston, Global Senior Pastor, Hillsong
“Whatever challenge you’re facing, whatever obstacle you’re hoping to overcome, whatever future you dream or imagine, there is something powerful for you here.” Andy Stanley, Founder, North Point Ministries
“Uncommonly perceptive and generous…You have to read this book.” Ann Voskamp,NYT bestselling author
“Masterful.”Reggie Joiner,CEO Orange
“Deep biblical insight, straightforward truth, and practical wisdom to help you grow.” Craig Groeschel, Pastor and NYT bestselling author
“This book is sure to help you.” Daniel H. Pink, NYT bestselling author
Over the years, one of the things I’ve enjoyed most about being a public speaker is having opportunities to hang out with Carey…It’s not a matter of if you’ll run into these challenges; it’s a matter of when. Be prepared by spending a little time with a leader who has already been there.” Jon Acuff, NYT best-selling author
“Nieuwhof’s book provides expert guidance…with an accuracy that pierces the heart.” Nancy Duarte, CEO Duarte Inc.
“A refreshingly transparent guide for all leaders in a wide variety of industries.” Bryan Miles, Co-Founder and CEO, BELAY
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